WHO DETERMINES WHAT WE ARE?

I thought I had overcome many trials and tribulations if my life.

The pain of leaving my family behind when I immigrated to Canada, Divorce, Death of both my parents and my two sister. Death of a daughter.

Leaving a daughter and all my grandchildren behind in Canada when I immigrated to Utah.

Unfortunately that has not been the case. I have encountered hurt deeper that I have never encountered before in my life. The challenge from people that has challenged the very core of who I am as a person. The core of my very being. An honest person who care about my family and friends.

I believe I am a person of integrity who abhor lying and cheating and that of having people challenging my integrity has been the hardest, most hurtful and most humiliating experience in my life.

I have been called a liar and many other deeply hurtful things which is so totally against my personality and who I am and always been as a person.

I should have told myself: “Well they don’t know me”, but that is not always easy when somebody is so adamant about “who they “think” and “believe” and “Have Determined” you are” without really taking the time to get to know “the real you”.

BUT

I feel I have always been pretty good at forgiving but I have learned an even deeper meaning of “total forgiveness” and I am grateful that I have learned that lesson.

The total depth of “what Christ meant” when he said that we should forgive our enemies has been revealed to me more than ever before.

We should not let others determine who we are.

We should not let others "faulty" judgment of us determine what we do and how we live.

Vibeke Lindhardt

20 November 2017

BEING HONEST AND TRUTHFUL?

At the moment there is questions about if the Alabama nominee Roy S. Moore sexually abused women 40 years ago.

People seem to be divided over

Did it really happen?

Is it falls allegations?

And

if it did happen should he be punished 40 years later?

(40 years ago women did not feel free enough to speak up about sexual abuse.)

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I believe the REAL question we should ask ourselves is:

Is Roy Moore afraid of telling the truth because it will destroy his reputation?

Or

Is he more willing to discredit four women's truths to cover his own back?

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Is it right to “bury the truth” because 40 years have gone by?

Or

Is it a matter of honesty and  integrity?

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Another question is:

“Why is it ok to protect the abuser and get upset at the women who were  abused?

See story: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/11/11/us/roy-moore-alabama-senate.html

Vibeke Lindhardt

13 November 2017

REPENTANCE

Your judgement of me

Might feel right for you,

But the Lord knows my heart

And he helps me through.

He knows all the facts

Not just one or two.

He knows my stumbles

And loves me through.

Judgement is easy

when we see one side.

He sees all the angels

He is my guide.

I will repent

in my own time

Not yours

but mine.

I know my faults

and know what to do.

I just need your love

to help me through.

Vibeke Lindhardt

3 October 2017

ALWAYS REMEMBER  what is important in life

The Danish songwriter- opera singer – actor Poul Bundgaard wrote - and performed - a song called “Always Remember”. 

I love the message and would like to share it with you because I believe it is my favorite song that Poul Bundgaard has ever written and performed.

Here is the translation:

We always say “See you later” and believe it too.

Suddenly destiny will be a goodbye.

Therefore, every girl, every boy, whatever you believe

And whatever gift you have here on earth

Always remember.

Try to Understand.

Life must be lived every day.

Take care of your time.

Use all your talents.

Maybe it will be a short time

Before you leave.

These were the words

That I learned from my mother:

“You have to help me

When you grow up.”

Now she is gone,

but I still hear on my way

Hear the voice

That taught me:

Always remember

Try to Understand

Life must be lived every day.

Take care of your time.

Use all your diligence

Maybe it will be a short time

Before you leave.

The years are gone

And the hours are lived

I have accomplished a bit

But not nearly enough.

What is not accomplished

The children can try to do

And the verse from Farmor*

Maybe try to understand:

Always remember

Try to Understand

Life must be lived every day.

Take care of your time.

Use all your diligence

Maybe it will be a short time

Before you leave.

(see below the Danish version)

His message to us is so important. We run too fast and don’t make enough time for the important things and sometimes it becomes “too late”.

Listen to him on utube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I-1soIOT0LI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cZiqPg_9ip4&list=PLMt_hsY27HD46hzRicpnL1EjqL6E1_ifH

Pould Bundgaard never took himself very serious.  As a matter of fact, even though he played in numerous of movies that became famous – f.ex. “Olsen Banden” he always had fear of the stage.

Olsen Banden

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dhx4eaFcW-M

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ptOabC8r8BU

HUSK ALTID PAA

By Poul Bundgaard – 1922-1998

Vi siger altid paa gensyn,  og tror det selv

Pludselig vil skœbnen blive et farvel.

Derfor hver pige, hver dreng hvad I ellers tror

Blive der gaven, I fik paa jord

Husk altid paa

Prøv at forstaa

Livet skal leves hver eneste dag

Pas paa din tid

Brug al din flid

Maaske er det kort

Før du skal bort

Saadan lyder ordene

Jeg laerte dem af min Mor

I skulle hjœlpe mig

Naar jeg blir stor

Nu er hun borte

Men stadig jeg paa min vej

Hører den stemme

Der laerte mig:

Husk altid paa

Prøv at forstaa

Livet skal leves hver eneste dag

Pas paa din tid

Brug al din flid

Maaske er det kort

Før du skal bort

Aarene er gaaet

Og timerne levet op

Lidt har jeg naaet

Men langt, langt fra nok.

Al det der mangler

Kan børnene prøve at naa

Og verset fra FARMOR

Maaske forstaa:

Husk altid paa

Prøv at forstaa

Livet skal leves hver eneste dag

Pas paa din tid

Brug al din flid

Maaske er det kort

Før du skal bort.

·        FARMOR means “Dad’s Mother”

Cove Fort, Utah

Alley Hart in front of Cove Fort, Utah

Cover Fort was built by Gordon B. Hinckley’s grandfather Ira Hincley.with the help of Mason Nicholas Paul.

 The Fort celebrated their 150 anniversary this year on the weekend of August 5^th

In 1867 it would take 10 days to get from Salt Lake City to Cove Fort and similar 10 days from Cove Fort to Toquerville.  It took Alley and I about two hours each way.

This is the house that Ira and Adelaide Hinckley lived in with their 7 children:

Allie and I are standing in front of the horse barn.  They used to have lots of horses and cows, but now they just show it off.

Notice how the bed frame that held the mattress was attached to bed.  They had a tool to “tighten the frame” when it got saggy.

They cooked all their meals on this stove.  Looks a lot like the stove my Mom cooked on when we lived on Munkebjergvej 53 on Amager, in Copenhagen. 

They did a lot of weaving.

They used washboards to scub their clothes on and so did my Mom and I when I was a kid in Denmark:  

They made their own soap.

Alley having fun on the pioneer wagon.

REAL FRIENDS ARE LIKE TRUE PEARLS

People collect all different kinds of things in this world.  Some collect antiques, others collect stamps, but the only thing I have ever wanted to collect in my life is REAL FRIENDS.

They are more precious than finding pearls in the ocean. They become an integral part of your life and help to form who you are.

I don’t mean the “fly by night acquaintances” we all have.

People who come and go in your life. 

I mean “REAL FRIENDS. The ones that become “like family” to you.

They know you in and out and you know them the same way.

There are no pretenses.  

The ones that you feel emotionally safe with. They don’t doubt you nor intentions.

The real friends that trust you 100%.

They don’t tear you down or try to find faults with you, nor do they criticize you for “what and who you are” and what you believe or stand for, but accept you totally without hesitation  – even if you differ from them.

They build your self-esteem when you spend time with them, so when you leave them you feel at peace and tell yourself: “I am ok”.

I have been lucky that I over the years have had such REAL FRIENDS.  The real pearls. But they differ from the pearls we find in the ocean. They die.

You feel an emptiness in your heart when they are gone and still a gratitude for they being a part of your life.

Something of you are missing and still they have enriched your life because of them being a part of you.

Within the last 2 months I have lost two of my precious pearls:

Ingeborg Carlsen in Denmark.

 Beautiful Ingeborg Carlsen

The view from Ingeborg's place.

 What a woman. If you wanted the truth about life and yourself, Ingeborg was the person to talk to.

She would not always just tell you what you wanted to hear, but what you "needed to hear". She was a "true blue" tell you as it is, person.

I feel richer for knowing Ingeborg.

Carol Remilliard

Carol and John Remilliard

Carol in her apartment in Calgary

me and Carol in Toquerville 2015

Carol Remilliard, who was born in Utah, but whom I knew when I lived in Calgary, Alberta Canada was a "build up your ego" friends.

Always fun to be with.  Always fun to talk to and go for lunch with.

Always ready to "live in the moment" person..

And I am still carrying every day the purse she gave me.

Ingeborg and Carol were true, blue precious friends.

They enriched my life and I feel so lucky that they allowed me to be a part of theirs.

I honor them.

Vibeke Lindhardt

13 August 2017

WHY DO PEOPLE LEAVE A JOB?

In my 55 years of "work time" I have worked in places where I have been extremely happy and I have worked in places where I have been extremely unhappy.

Of course when I worked in a place I was happy I wanted to stay for a very long time and there are some jobs where I worked for years.  There has also been places where I was very unhappy and of course I left sooner.


WHEN YOU ARE WORKER

One thing I did learn in those years is "that you have to be a team player". Having common courtesy and respect toward your boss and your co-workers in my opinion, is a top priority.  It is not "all about you", nor is it "all about the person that manage you".


WHEN YOU ARE A MANAGER

When a person is a manager having respect for the workers and not "micro manage" is in my opinion the most important.

I have worked in places with wonderful considerate managers and I have worked in places where the person would micro manage you to the point that he/she would make life unbearable.

One thing I did learn in the places I worked is that most people quit their jobs because "of the manager" and where I left earlier it was because I felt "micro managed".


WHAT IS HAPPENING IN THE UNITED STATES WHITE HOUSE AT THE MOMENT?

12 people have either been fired or quit within the last 6 months in the "United States White House".

Is it "because "The Boss is Micro managing"?


Vibeke Lindhardt

1 August 2017