FOR YOU OR WITH YOU

I believe there is a huge difference between doing something FOR PEOPLE or WITH PEOPLE.

TO DO SOMETHING FOR SOMEBODY

To do something FOR somebody usually have the word “charity” attached to it.

You can do something for somebody because you want to “help” those people in one way or another.  Could be a physical help of making a meal for the person or helping them move.

It could also be a “charitable” donation to a person or a group.

I have high regard and respect for anybody who are “Charitable” and want to help others either financially, or physically.

Nevertheless, it does not have to be that the person being “charitable” towards somebody, means “that they love and care personally about that person”.

TO DO SOMETHING WITH SOMEBODY

Wanting to do something WITH somebody is a much more personal thing.

You want to go for lunch with some friends – not so much for the food – but “because you are interested in that/those people you go for lunch with.

You really want to spend TIME with that/those people, because they enrich your lives and validate you as a person. You feel comfortable.  You can talk and open your heart and feel validated.

You quite likely already know those people through work or on a more personal level either as family members – spouses, parents, children, siblings or close friends and the main reason for wanting to spend time with that/those people is because you want to “give of yourself on a deeper emotional level”.

It is not “something you do – just because you want “to do something FOR that/those person/people” as an act of “charity”. Your feelings are much deeper than that.

The people you spend time with on that level speak usually treat you in courteous manner and because of their behavior towards you, they build up your confidence  and validates “the best of who you are as a person”.  They never question your integrity.

I believe that both have values, but it is the people that want TO DO SOMETHING WITH YOU that makes you feel loved and cared for and enriches you as a personal emotionally and mentally and makes you feel that “Life is worth living”.

Vibeke Lindhardt

1 July 2017

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