FINISHING

Some of are good starters, but not very good finishers and I am one of those.

One day when somebody gave a talk in our church gave a talk on “family history” he said that every time when a person dies, it is like a library that closes.  How true.

I have started writing my own family history, my parents’ history, my deceased daughter Linda’s history, but none of them are finished and I realize if I don’t get going on it, it will never get finished.

I also realize that I am the only one alive that have the knowledge about my parent to write that story.

I don’t know why, but when I look back over sewing and  arts and craft and family history projects I have started, I can see that I am and have always been a good starter, but not a very good “finisher”.

Last year I decided that this has to “stop” and I did finish my grandparents’ story and I hope to finish my parents story this year.

I also set a goal of “finishing” my paintings that I have had sitting around half finished..

Two days ago, I brought two “finished” painting to the Hurricane Peach Festival and I was honored and surprised that one of them won 2^nd – in the “amateur” category.

 It encouraged me to get some more of my painting “finished” and hopefully my parents’ story will also get finished this year, since I realize that I am in the age, where “my library” could close any time.

Vibeke Lindhardt

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31. August 2018

Love Creates More Love

Constant criticism and faultfinding towards a spouse - a parent - or a child eventually kills the love for that person, no matter how much the other person care about - or love you.

A person can simply kill their own love feeling and” self-sabotage" the very love they crave - by being defensive, with "negative" actions  and expressions towards the very person that love them the most. In other words, they are "self-sabotaging" the very relationship they want the most and push away the person they want the most.

Many family and spouse relationships are suffering from "lack of forgiveness" of past minor or major transgressions towards another person. Some people simply can't let go of the past but keep reminding "the transgressor" what they did a year ago, five years ago, 20 years ago.

Unfortunately, sometimes that criticism and constant faultfinding towards a spouse, ends in divorce and the person still refuse to see "that they simply created the scenario" themselves. 

The more positive things one can find and express about a spouse, a parent or child, or friend no matter how that other person is. the more one will love that person.

I believe we can love somebody no matter what color, creed, religion, or political differences we have, as long as we have respect for other people’s values and opinions. 

I believe that showing love towards those who are "different than us" creates more love.

Vibeke Lindhardt

27 August 2018

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