I LOVE PEOPLE

All my life I have loved and been intrigued by people and relationships.

I remember -as a teen - when I lived on Vesterbro in Copenhagen, I loved walking down Istedgade just “to watch people”.

There were many downtrodden people on the that street, with no home, nor purse.  My heart went out to them.

I automatically wanted “to do something for them”.

Categorizing People.

I don’t like when people are being “categorized”, like “that person is fat”, or “that person is ugly”. etc.

Every person has some beauty in them and it might not be “the outside look”. 

Why focusing on the persons “body”?  Like f. ex. “That person has gained weight” instead of seeing “that person has a wonderful smile”.

Seeing people as "either positive" or "negative".

Some people "categorize" others as either being “positive" or "negative".

I believe, all human beings have some of both in us and it all depends on which one we focus on in the other person, that will depend on how we show our love for them.

We are all “children of God” and I believe I can love even those who look for "the negative" in me. I can be sad when somebody don't see me “as I am” but call me a “fraud”. They do not see nor feel my love for them and I can only conclude that they might have experienced something very painful in their childhood. 

Many times, when people have had certain unhappy experiences in their childhood, it is creating a narcissistic person who are missing the natural "empathy" for others.

They don’t see nor can they feel other people’s pain and sorrow, but only see the other person  as "positive" or "negative".

Maybe traumatic childhood experiences have caused that person "not to feel" - and not have "empathy for others"?  Such a person does not know, nor realize "the true love somebody has (or had) for them" before it is too late and that person is not in their lives anymore.

Then that person sits back and say: “What happened”? "I did not know and realize how much she/he loved me".

Judging those you say you love.

How can somebody “profess” to love somebody and then at the same time be so harsh towards that person? I don’t believe you love somebody if you not only withhold love from a person, both physically and emotionally, but keep finding faults with that person. That is neither love, nor compassion.

Being quick to judge others?

When a person “publicly” reports an injustice done to them, I feel compassion for that person and feel they in all fairness “at least” need to be heard, before we start to “name call” that person and pull them apart with ugly words.

People do not always have “ulterior” motives for “telling their stories” and most people have gone through a lot of private pain before they go public to talk about their pain, knowing they will be judged either way.

All people deserve some love.

I believe if we look for the good in a person, we will find it.  If we focus on what is good in that person, we will love that person.

I personally believe that people are all “beautiful” in their own way, no matter what they look like or how they act.  As one person I knew in said "those that are the most unloving, are the ones that need the love the most".

Vibeke Lindhardt. September 24^th 2018